UPDATE: Stepdaughter asks 52-year-old stepmother to cancel concert tickets and give her the cash: 'This is a night out to celebrate your Dad's 60th birthday, not a cash grab'

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Remy Millisky • Writer and Editor
Jun 28, 2025 11:00 AM EDT

Talk about ungrateful! This stepdaughter thought she had the perfect plan to score some extra cash… cancel a concert with her dad and other family members! 

They say that if you loan someone money, you shouldn't expect to get it back. If your family member asks for $500 and insists they'll pay you back by next month, you can just give them the money. Because if you loan it to them and expect to get that cash back, it can cause all kinds of issues. If they can't repay you, they might start avoiding you, or blaming you, or they might start bad-mouthing you behind your back. 

This stepchild had a pretty sneaky way of trying to get cash from her stepmom. Instead of just asking for a loan, or just asking to have the money outright, she decided to put a price tag on her Dad's 60th birthday. She wanted the money for the concert tickets that her stepmom was buying, which is just rather tacky. If it was the stepdaughter's birthday, that'd be a little more understandable. But her dad's birthday present should be going entirely to him, as commenters told the stepmom in her post. She actually did take some advice from commenters, and left an update. Check it all out below. 

Next, read about the teen who got back at her step-brother and step-mom who refused to put any gas in their shared car's tank: 'I got up at 4 AM… and rode a bike.'

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  • 01
    So I (f52) have been married to my DH (m59) for 8 years. I have 2 children and he has 3 from previous marriages. All are adults and all except 1 have their own children. They get along with each other but due to everyone being spread out over 4 states, we're not all together often. To the point, my husband's 60th birthday is coming up this fall. He loves stand up comedy and one of his favorites is coming here about a month before his
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    birthday. I thought it would be a nice birthday gift to get tickets for all the kids and their partners to see the show. We'd probably have a nice dinner before. I messaged all 5 kids and asked if they and their SOs would like to go. (Child care for the grandchildren isn't an issue. The ones who aren't old enough to stay alone have their other grandparents close enough to keep them.)
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    Anyway, his daughter messaged me back that they won't be able to come but they could really use the money. She wanted to know where we'd be sitting so she'd know how much I'm paying for the tickets. Is this even a thing? I haven't answered yet because I'm too shocked to know what to say. My gut reaction is I'm inviting them to celebrate her dad's birthday. There's no offer of cash. If we were going to a restaurant, I wouldn't send her the money I would've spent on her dinner.
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  • 04
    AITAH for telling her no to cashing in her invitation?
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    UPDATE! So, tickets went on sale and were ordered today (Tues). All 3 sons and their wives are coming. The two daughters aren't. If the girls change their minds, they'll have to negotiate with the guys. I'm out of that discussion now.
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  • 07
    I took most people's advice and responded to SD that I hate they can't come but maybe we can do something else around then. I also asked how everyone was doing. She said the boys were crazy excited about school being out but they were all good. No mention of money so maybe she got the hint or maybe I misunderstood her previous text. Maybe, as some of suggested, bf responded to my original offer and she didn't know about it.
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  • 08
    During a separate convo with DH about graduation pics on FB, I asked if he realized SD's oldest would be graduating next year. He seemed surprised the boy was that old already. I used that as a segue to talk about us not seeing them as often as we see the others, which led him to call
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    SD and ask when we could come visit. We're going this weekend to take them for pizza and maybe to the lake. Hopefully, we'll be able to tell if SD is ok or if there is anything wonky with her bf.
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    I appreciate everyone's comments, input and suggestions. You all gave me a lot more to consider than my original thoughts. Thanks, Reddit
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    5footfilly I wouldn't even acknowledge the question. I'd simply respond I'm sorry you can't make it and leave it there.
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  • 12
    If she wants a loan, let her ask for one. Then you can discuss it with your husband and go from there. NTA. Your stepdaughter is ridiculous.
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    Expensive-Letter-... NTA it isn't a thing unless it is her own birthday and she ask for cash instead of a gift
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    MelG146 "This is a night out to celebrate your Dad's 60th birthday, not a cash grab. Come or don't, but there's no money being given out." NTA
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    Anxious-Routine-5... Wow! That's a new one. No, it's not a thing other than a sense of entitlement on her part. NTA. You were extending a generous invitation to celebrate a milestone birthday for her dad. She can accept the offer and attend or not. As you stated and rightly so, non attendance doesn't come with money back for
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    something she isn't paying for in the first place. If she needs money that's an entirely separate conversation.
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    Prestigious_Sail16... Lol this has to be a joke right? This is an insane request. If they are that hard up and have a good relationship with you they should make a heartfelt genuine ask for help. Not research the price of the gift FOR THEIR FATHER and request you send them the cash instead. Bonkers. NTA
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